Hi everyone. I had not recorded an update a a few weeks so I thought today was a good day to do it. It’s Tom’s birthday! You can imagine what we are happy for today. Last year on Tom’s birthday, thanks to a friend treating us, we were in Paris! We are so glad for those memories and for the great new friends we met.
This is a short video update. Hope everyone has a great week!
July 31, 2018 – We get the news…Tom has Bladder Cancer.
The Dr. who had a dull bedside manner at best, called while we were making dinner. I could see it on Tom’s face, I knew it was cancer. Bladder Cancer stage T1 high level. It had spread from the bladder lining to the thin tissue between the lining and the muscle-the exact place the cancer spreads to first is the muscle. The Dr. started on the phone talking about BCG treatment, chemo, radiation, and possibly removing the bladder. Unbelievable thing to do to someone whom you just told they have cancer.
We cried so hard and held each other so tight. This couldn’t be happening, it didn’t feel real. But it was real and we were not fighting for Tom’s life.
I made a note in my journal, “Have to share info with Tom to get him to understand other treatment options…but not everything like, how bad the survival rate could be with this cancer. I hate the word cancer.
We head to the Dr.’s office to have the catheter removed but the Dr. isn’t there so we have to wait. There was a flood of emotions from fear, anger, sadness, and just being overwhelmed while we waited for the next appointment and we researched like crazy the treatment options.
As I read my journal entries, there are moments of fear, sadness, being overwhelmed, and hope. Days of crying and days of doing a ton of research to find what we needed. After 5 Urologists, none of whom liked us very much, we are not deterred from our quest to push cancer back with the treatment protocol Tom has decided to use.
Happy New Year! I can’t tell you how emotional the holidays were for us, especially me, I think. I was so ready to say goodbye to 2018, the year our world stopped turning, the year we found out Tom had bladder cancer.
I knew about holistic medicine, well, I thought I did. A family member is an RN and a holistic nutritionist. We thought we ate pretty healthy, no processed foods, no fast food, mostly raw veggies and lean meat. Tom was completely healthy other than back pain from an old but pretty bad back injury that had gotten worse.
Last June I came back from a video shoot in South Florida and Tom had an awful cold. Tom NEVER gets colds, the flu, even a headache. I was concerned. Then, he saw blood in his urine, it wasn’t the first time last year and he was scared. He begged me to get an antibiotic for him because a Dr. (his primary) had told him “it could be just an infection.” So against my better judgement, I got it for him. He had just started feeling and sounding better after 8 days when he had his annual Dr.’s appointment.
So, with Tom, he had never, ever been in the system. No hospital ever, no meds, nothing. Hardly any interaction with Doctors. So, he goes to the Dr., with a cold, tells him he is taking an antibiotic and when he returns home, he is upset. The Dr. sent a nurse in to give him a pneumonia shot!
He had never had any vaccine. I was so upset that I went and complained. The office staff didn’t know what to say. What do you say to the fact that a Dr. gave a patient with a cold, taking antibiotics, with possible cancer-so a compromised immune system, a vaccine?
Sure enough, he relapsed and got sick again. Then, we headed to the referral for a Urologist. Didn’t know this guy at all. His bedside manner was blunt and dull. First visit, after a Cystoscopy- A hollow tube (cystoscope) equipped with a lens is inserted into your urethra and slowly advanced into your bladder, he announces that it’s more than likely cancer.
That is the moment our world stopped turning. That’s why I’m glad 2018 is behind us and looking forward to 2019 being the year we heal Tom.
This song touches my soul. You see, my husband Tom was diagnosed with bladder cancer in July of this year. As often is the case, a song from Kenny Chesney really moves us. This song, Better Boat, is Tom’s “anthem”.
He gets emotional when he hears it because it reflects this journey we are
on. Diagnosed in July, tumors removed, Tom has chosen an integrated but mostly
holistic/natural treatment protocol.
So, it often feels like we are on our own and alone doing this. Cancer
causes you to fear, anger, and with this treatment, it is really building his
bodies immune system to fight this disease. The cost of surgery, doctors, tests
and strong nutrients, specific food-all organic, oxygen hyperbaric chamber
treatments, Far-Infrared Sauna treatments, and Cryo-Nitrogen treatments are
The week Tom was diagnosed, I lost my monthly client so it’s been tough.
So far, tests show we have pushed cancer back but it’s still at the cellular level so we continue this treatment protocol for at least another year. It takes so much money to do that.
This song reflects how Tom feels and we both have faith in what he is doing.
I do the research, make the appointments, handle the insurance and paperwork,
find the food, store & prepare it and keep nutrients stocked.
I worry because we can’t pay for this for a year. It’s about $2500 a month
on average if we don’t run into obstacles and need other things. And that
doesn’t include whatever tests he may need throughout the year.
My friend started a gofundme page and friends, family, and associates were kind enough to donate but we really need help.
Because a holistic treatment for cancer seems so controversial, and this song has touched our hearts in such a big way, I’ve created this blog page www.buildabetterboat.life to blog and vlog about the journey.
We understand that many believe in complete western treatments but we know
others support us and believe in natural as well. So far, we’ve tried to blend
it but Doctors are not willing to work with us. I cry when I hear this song
because it reminds me of Tom’s journey just like Summertime reminds me of my
last summer with my mom, who we lost to cancer.
I pray that people will find this blog and know we sincerely need help. If I
could find 250 people that would give $100 on the gofundme page, I could
breathe that we can get through this year.
All of Kenny’s music is amazing, this song is very special to us and we love
the No Shoes Nation Community. Sorry to say we won’t be able to see Kenny in
concert even though it’s the first time in several years he has played in
Jacksonville, FL (close to us) but we can’t spend any money on anything extra.
So, we hope when we get through this we can see Kenny again.