What an awful and emotional time. Tom recovering from surgery, me trying to find alternative treatment options, and at the same time, trying to figure out how to replace the income I lost the week Tom was diagnosed. My larget client at the time canceled his retainer account due to financial issues.
My immediate plan:
- Have Tom see Laurence at Healing Waters
- Call Treatment Center in Oregon to schedule a call to discuss a treatment plan
- Call about the Hoxsey treatment I had found in my research
- Look at holistic cancer treatment clinics in Mexico and Germany
- Figure out how to handle the emotions (for both of us) of setting up a Go Fund Me page
- Ask my dad for money, my family
- Cut every expense I can cut immediately
- I had to beg one company to let me out of an advertising contract-I wasn’t too proud to do it, I had to cut every bit I could
I talked to a treatment center in Florida-approximately $36,000. The center in Oregon? Initial phone/skype consultation would be $650.00.
There would be many times throughout this journey where I would feel overwhelmed and ask myself if I was giving Tom accurate and good advice, were we making good decisions? I didn’t have anyone to guide me. We couldn’t afford to spend $36,000 and up plus travel expenses for the clinics I found.
The decision to go with the treatment center in Oregon was made. $650 for the initial consult and then the Dr. would send a treatment protocol. The supplements cost around $650 a month and the alkaline-based 100% organic diet would average $300 a week, at times more. There were the tests that were not covered, the bills that needed to be paid and I now had lost a major source of income. Every month we were bleeding into debt.
A dear friend set up the Go Fund Me Campaign and planned an event for people I knew to get together with me and donate. As thankful as I was for this kindness, it was tough to basically ask people for help. I am so grateful to the ladies that attended the event. They genuinely cared about us, wanted to help us, and did help us. I can never share with them my appreciation. A lesson in being humble and letting people help you.
A local charity that helps families pay their bills and other needed things as a loved one goes through cancer called me one day. They offered to help and they are amazing. We are so grateful to them. You see, I pretty much stopped working and focused on doing research, taking care of Tom, sourcing the food and supplements, scheduling treatments, tracking all the medical records, and running things. We felt the love and prayers from so many people. There were a few people who didn’t agree with Tom’s treatment choices and some judged us on creating a Go Fund Me page.
The lesson I learned was not to judge because you never know what someone’s situation is and I had to do whatever it took to help my husband get rid of this life-threatening disease.
This was just the beginning of the treatment and healing process. Tom began drinking Essiac Tea every night. Then the supplements arrived and initially, he took over 30 capsules a day plus more. I made lists of what he took and when. I doled out capsules-those that would go in the morning smoothie, and in two tiny bowls, I would place the morning and afternoon capsules that Tom would “graze” on, and finally, the evening capsules.
Tom’s body went through a detox and he didn’t feel well for a few days. Then he began to lose weight rapidly. Just the beginning…